she wants to get away from her family which is understandable but she also wants freedom which coming here will take away. most people think freedom comes with college but to her I know she’ll be making the biggest mistake ever. If she comes here the only freedom she’ll have is to do her own laundry more, and get up for classes on her own. Other than that you’re confined to a small room and nothing more. You have nowhere else to go. No car, no TV room, no bedroom, no anything. Freedom in our relationship is getting up and going for a long hike at Lake Mohegan and sitting there for hours just talking. That is impossible here. The most we will be able to do is lay around and watch TV which is great but after a while we always want to get up and go do things. We’ll constantly be surroudned by three other guys and have 0 privacy. This isnt the life we always talk about. We have the chance to both go to school for what we want, be together everyday with friends and alone when we want to, and help out our families. No matter what our families may have done to us in the past they’re still our families. It does not work like that here. If she should take my word on anything its this. If I transfer id have my own apartment and she would most likely be allowed to stay in it some weeknights and every weekend. I know it doesnt feel that way now but things change. If her parents split up and she lives with her mom, there is not a doubt in my mind that would be allowed. She will have her own car, I know it has to be shared during the summer but thats better than nothing? and during the school year it would be all hers to do whatever she wants with. Being on your own isnt going here. Being on your own is going to class then driving to my apartment and hanging out then going to the gym together and to the lake etc. If shes as serious as me about her she’ll see that going to a party without your parents “permission” gets old especially when you sit there and think about the person you love the entire time. I know she doesnt see it now but there is more freedom than anything in staying put. PLEASE, dont let her make the same mistake I made, because if she does, she wont have anybody to help her out of it. please. I may sound like an asshole, and if thats the case just remember im the asshole whos been here for a school year and can tell you from experience. Im the asshole who loves her more than anything in my entire life and need to help her before she makes a mistake.

I’ll stay here for her next year and the next and next. But I promised her if she goes back home ill come home and spend everyday with her and help her thru every little thing in her life. I’ll be her guardian angel, because thats something she did from her heart. I need her to know that here will not be the same as there. We owe it to each other to do this…

“Why dont you just leave her brian..” your mom said this in the summer to me before i left. Little did she know ill do anything for you and you the same for me. I think you and I both know what we have to do